Some children grow up to develop a rebellious attitude when they reach the adolescent stage. They like to think that they are old enough to get away from your claws and do things according to their plans.
While it may come as natural to nag to the children when things go awry, you should try to avoid doing so as much as possible. Scolding your children does not necessarily mean you are disciplining them. Though there are times that they are necessary, you don’t want to overdo them. Otherwise, your children will only end up hating you. Here are tips on how to deal with your teens’ tantrums.
HELP THEM UNDERSTAND THEMSELVES
Fighting with your teenagers will just add coal to the fire. Instead of yelling at them, why not explain to them how their behavior will affect them and the people around them? Do so calmly. Draw a line between the positive and negative things they can do to approach a certain problem.
BE A MODEL TO THEM
Since you are the parent, you have to show to them appropriate behaviors. When having a fight with your teens, take the initiative to show them the proper way of expressing and controlling anger. Be a role model to them and eventually, they will mimic your actions.
NEGOTIATE WITH THEM
Make sure that you communicate with your teens properly. Listen to what they say, so that they will listen to you, too. When we say listen, we mean try to understand what they mean. Look at it from their position. Make sure to discuss things with them properly to any misunderstanding.
Being a parent is the most difficult job in the world. As Sue Atkins mentioned, “There is no such thing as a perfect parent. Just be a real one.”